TUNNEL Vision. TUNNEL Emotion

TUNNEL Vision. TUNNEL Emotion

Had experience on numerous occasions speaking to tunnel vision people. Frusrating it may be, but bearable. BUT when it comes to tunnel emotion people….well, let’s just say even one time is once too many.

Tunnel emotion people are simply too emotionally narrow, limited, easily offended. All they tend to see or feel is negativity. They are not able to comprehend the fact that even a coin has 2 sides and do not bother to try to understand the other side of the story.

For one to grow and mature emotionally, mentally, spiritually and even as an employer/employee, we cannot afford to have tunnel vision, especially tunnel emotions. It is a tremendous baggage that will hold us back….perhaps make a few enemies (not by others but us making enemies of others).

Life offers us choices. If we are given the freedom to choose, why can’t we choose wisely? The answer is obvious. Taking the path of “I am like that” is just a lazy excuse.

So guys and gals, life is short. Let’s not make excuses not to be a better person. Choose to be the better person!




We are not waiting for something bad to explode. We are however waiting for something good to explode. An explosion of blessing…

Waiting………………………………………. starting to feel irritated? Humans, particularly the current generations are not born to wait. Everything has to be instantaneous – food, money, happiness, results, etc. Waiting is often associated with negativity.

But if one reads the bible, waiting is good. The right waiting that is…..that is brought and initiated by the Lord.

  • Waiting builds character
  • Waiting builds perseverance
  • Waiting allows us to refocus
  • Waiting helps clear our mind
  • Waiting teaches us obedience

Personally, I have waited about 10 years, well not all waiting. There were some laziness somewhere in there too (naughty me). As the pic says, there are decades where nothing happens. As sleeping beauty was suddenly awakened by a kiss, I too suddenly awoke (not kiss for me ya, LOL, but my Lord Jesus). My awakening was not just the opening of my mind and heart but was filled with #conviction.

Even after being awakened, I still had to…..yes you guessed it… WAIT! I tried many things. I tried to push. Tried to hurry. But nothing came to past. Then as I settled down to wait, my waiting ended. Ironic eh? Yes, when God moves, He moves! Suddenly I had weeks where decades happen. My world was full of progress and productivity. Wauzers! Good thing my hair remained intact with the speed I was travelling in.

So dear friends, do not despise your #waiting period. You could be prepped for much greater things to come. You could even be given a break time (down time) to freshen yourself before progress hits you. You may not have time to rest then.

Motives Motives

Motives Motives

Content below is extracted from the posting of Stephanne Foong (with permission)…

I must say that Malaysia is not very service-pro and not exactly a tipping culture.

My husband and I love to identify people with great service attitude, Who serve beyond. It’s really rare to find such.

I’ve tipped many waiters and waitress that are really good, we’ve tipped taxi drivers and once I gave rm50/100 Tip to a uber driver because I felt he was so humble; I’ve given consecutively to a shampoo lady RM50 tip everytime I was there on a weekly basis because imo she’s an elderly and still have to work, tipped janitors….as long as they touched my heart. And I’m not bragging because if you read till the end, that is not the intention of this write.

Everytime we identify a good waitress, cleaner, guard, masseurs, any service person, we seriously tip the person. My husband will do a further gesture , he personally shakes the person’s hand and say Thank you , ‘everytime’, not a one time thing.

The gesture of the handshake, looking into the person’s eye and saying thank you , is a warmer gesture and above the tips! It is us telling the person, “thank you for your excellent service.” We admire the way to go beyond your duty. We respect you! It is a dignity gesture! And we feel each time the person felt respected and honoured.

“Honor’ is a word poorly missing in “now” generation. Some don’t know how to honor elders, Leaders and how do we expect them to honor carpark attendants, toilet cleaner, waiters, rubbish collector…the so called more lowly work. We don’t just honor the rich , great and mighty (and pls dont twist my words. There’s nothing wrong honoring great people and celebrating them. They are honorable too). But Honor is not a limited edition, in this perspective.

But it’s sad. We somehow have to ‘slow down’ in doing good. Coz after a few years. We eventually realise that although we ‘sincerely’ blessed a person and appreciated. The person will somewhat landed in trouble.

It happened too many times. At one season, we were very blessed by two different waiters at two different restaurant. The first is Paul. They’re both Filipinos. I told my husband that I always stop by this restaurant for meal before spa. And I identified this young man with a pleasant smile, always serve with a smile, and always go beyond and remember little details like I do other want my soup cover removed and prefered my food course by course etc. My husband went with me and was delighted by his excellent service. He tipped him even more generously and shaked his hands everytime he joined me at the restaurant. We went there quite often. But our gesture created many green eyes. Monsters.

One day without any warning and goodbye. Paul was no longer around. I was shocked. He went back home without saying goodbye. I smelt something unpleasant.

Coincidentally it happened in other restaurants, spa…etc. They all became target of envy and heartache.

The Chinese has an idiom that says “good heart (intention) make bad outcome ” (hou sum juoh wy si).

God judge every MOTIVES of our hearts.

If you are one of those condemning the right people….may you take heart and see things from a ‘right’ perspective. Things may not always be as bad as you think. The bad is in a person’s mind. It’s called Malice aforethought.

See your own motives! Before you judge others.

LOVE The Nasties

LOVE The Nasties

It is almost without effort all of us can love someone sweet and supporting. But can you love someone who considers us transparent, irrelevant, unimportant, 2nd class?

Being someone who is well networked (I consider myself so, to some extent), unavoidably I will come across the full spectrum of characters. Most are nice but few are the born with their noses on their forehead.

Pardon the pun or slightly strong remarks but it is said without prejudice. I have come to appreciate those in the category of #nasties. Some characteristics of nasties are:

  1. Consider themselves than you (that’s why many a times they are rather arrogant and often treat others as the “invisibles”)
  2. Only want to be associated with people with titles, wealthy and big companies

Many years ago, when I am still not so endowed with wisdom and maturity, this would have unnerved me or even discouraged me. However, I thank God that He has built me in my chacacter thru the years such that I am not flustered when in the midst of these people. In fact one of the ways I was built was to be consistently placed in the presence of these people.

My very nice friends are a great encourager to me in my journey but the nasties are an even greater motivator to me. They exist to teach me the lessons:

  1. Do unto others as you want others to do unto you
  2. The higher you climb in success, the more humble you should be
  3. All are fair and equal in the eyes of God
  4. Today’s nobody can be a somebody tomorrow, vise-versa, a somebody today can be a nobody tomorrow
  5. Appreciate ALL people (nice and nasties) for they are here to teach us valuable lessons

So remember this….the next time you are faced with a nasty, appreciate them. Learn from the experience and be a better person in the future.

pssssst ::: send the nasties a thank you card when you get to your journey. Hey, they contributed to your success.


COURAGE to Pursue Justice

The world is a crooked place. Whoa….sounds super negative? Well, I consider myself a positive person but fact is, the world is a crooked place, no thanks to some people.

In our daily life, especially in the marketplace, it is unavoidable to cross path with such people (unfortunately). These people sometimes look angelic, ironically but after some time, their true colors will be revealed.

Why COURAGE to pursue justice? We live in a very hectic and fast paced environment, especially for city folks. Often some may advice us to “close one eye” or “sweep it under the carpet” when it comes to injustice.

Well, I disagree. While I agree we should extend grace, it should not be blind or ignorant grace. Appreciative individuals will realize this and respond accordingly while the foolish view “grace” as opportunity to further their evil ways.

Excercising COURAGE often requires us to…

  1. Be Vocal
  2. Take Action, e.g. going to court
  3. Be Misunderstood (sometimes)
  4. Be Challenged (there will be some degree of vulnerability)

So what do we do? I say STAND UP and ACT! If everyone of us turns a blind eye, that is an endorsement of their evil ways or being an accomplice (indirectly).

Will you be COURAGEOUS too???



Fine dining. Mention it to people and most of them will think of posh restaurants and professional chefs. Basically it means you have to eat out if you want fine dining, the whole works……plating, flavors, etc.

Well, there are always exceptions in this world. My home is a perfect example. My wifey (guess you can sense this is written by a proud hubby) is a good cook. She’s been labelled as the LOVE CHEF by friends and suggestions from all around to setup a restaurant.

Oh ya, Stevaunne’s Menu……..this is a collection of all of her recipes. I will share some of her creations in later posts but this short post is about recent interview by a renowned local media aka TheStar. They heard of her wonderful recipes and wanted to know more. After understanding Stevaunne’s Menu better, they decided to feature her and of course her food.

Look! The LOVE Chef being cheeky photobombing the professional photographer
Look! The LOVE Chef being cheeky photobombing the professional photographer
The 2nd course being captured
The 2nd course being captured
Successfully completed the 3 course meal, featuring her selected 3 special recipes. Time to pose for the camera
Successfully completed the 3 course meal, featuring her selected 3 special recipes. Time to pose for the camera

The entire experience was priceless. It is not everyday a home cook…..herein my home referred to as home chef gets featured in a renowned media. More so, not every home serves food the fine dining standard in every aspect — flavors, presentation, etc. By the way, did I mention that she’s self trained? Yes she is.

So you will pardon me for sounding a little boastful of my wife. She absolutely deserves it. Thus far the reviews have been great all around, including families and friends for those who had the opportunity to taste her Stevaunne’s Menu

The Good Stubborn

The Good Stubborn

According to people, there are some characteristics that an entrepreneur must have. Let me add on to the list — #stubborness, in a good way.

Look around you. There are those we label as super entrepreneurs, entrepreneurs and wannabe entrepreneurs. Super entrepreneurs always seem invincible. They seem to make everything look easy and having the Midas touch. To some they even seem a Hybrid of Avengers.

But ask any entrepreneurs, whatever category they may be. I bet each one of them will tell you that somewhere and some time in their journey, they have experienced pain, fear, rejection, doubts, fatigue, etc. You see, sometimes people forget that entrepreneurs are only human. The success and glory people see are the fruits. Back track on their journey and soon you will discover that they are no different from everyone else.

The negatives we cannot avoid but it should not be allowed to stumble us. The difference is the successful ones are those who see the negatives as a passing phase and not a destination. It is an opportunity to learn and grow.

So guys and gals, remember that you are only human. Don’t despair in times of difficulty. People before you have experienced and prevailed. Press on!